The Stress of Unbelief and the Courage of Faith

  • The Stress of Unbelief and the Courage of Faith

    Not believing in anything beyond our finite life can be stressful. However, believing in a higher power and life beyond our earthly existence can also be stressful. How can these two radically opposed worldviews lead to the same outcome of stress? The obvious answer is that being alive and conscious is in itself a source […]

  • Does Faith Help Prevent Depression?

    There have been numerous reports in the medical press about the beneficial effects of faith-based beliefs as having a positive influence on stress, depression, and other behavioral health conditions, as for example a 90% decrease in the risk of major depression, assessed prospectively, in adults who reported that religion or spirituality was highly important to […]

  • The Overwhelming Stress of Paranoia

    My spouse and I have been married for several years and we have beautiful children. Beginning some time ago, and following some life events and difficult circumstances that have occurred to us and between us, my spouse has begun suspecting me (and accusing me) of having an affair, trying to hide financial assets, threatening physical […]

  • ‘Tis the Season … for Reflection

    I’m finding it hard to believe that Christmas is only a few days away and it’s only two weeks until the end of the year. Where did this year go? The space between Christmas and the end of the year can be a great time to take a step back and reflect on the ups […]

  • I hate myself and it stresses me out!

    One of the most important loves of our lives is the love of self, in the right measure, and in the proper perspective. Love of self is an important component in child development that helps produce healthy, fully functioning adults. The acquisition of a healthy love of self in the child can be disrupted or […]

  • Stress, Women and Sound Sensitivity

    Courtesy of Stockholm University’s Stress Research Institute, a new study indicates that stress may make exhausted women over-sensitive to sounds.  The research offers evidence that women suffering from stress-related exhaustion exhibit hypersensitivity to sounds when exposed to stress.  In some cases, a sound level corresponding to a normal conversation can be perceived as painful.  This […]

  • How To Manage Stress in 90 Words

    1. Stress is a necessary, useful part of life. EMBRACE IT. 2. Most stress is resolved in 1 of 3 ways: fight, flight or freeze. DECIDE WHICH IS BEST. 3. Stress triggers are known and predictable. BUDGET FOR IT. 4. Stress affects self-esteem/efficacy. WORK ON ITS CAUSE. 5. Stress affects mind and body. ATTEND TO […]

  • The Stress-free Marriage – Part 2

    Both spouses must be able to “see” the cycle that has taken over communication between them, before they can begin to make any changes. In identifying the cycle, each spouse must accept (even without agreeing with it entirely) that regardless of whether each spouse is guilty or innocent of wrongdoing against each other, the cycle […]

  • Faith in God Positively Influences Treatment for Individuals with Mental Disorders

    Belief in God may significantly improve the outcome of those receiving short-term treatment for psychiatric illness, according to a recent study conducted by McLean Hospital investigators. McLean Hospital of Belmont, MA is the largest psychiatric affiliate of Harvard Medical School. In the study, published in the current issue of Journal of Affective Disorders, David H. […]

  • The Stress-free Marriage – Part 1

    Safe Haven MarriageA good marriage is a stress-free, safe haven for both spouses. In its fold, both partners come to feel emotionally secure and emotionally stable.  They become physically, emotionally and cognitively connected to each other.  There is no challenge or difficulty that cannot be confronted and successfully managed together, as a couple.

    In the safe haven of marriage, each spouse feels freer to be truly herself or himself.  Both partners learn to make adjustments to better fit their personality to the other, and over time these changes become almost effortless, are positively motivated, and are long-lasting.  Neither feels compelled to be significantly different from his or her true self.

    When a marriage is emotionally secure for both partners, discrepancies in points of view do not cease to exist.  A safe marriage is not a marriage without disagreement.  It is a marriage where disagreement, when it occurs, is handled with fairness, mutual respect, and with an eye toward a mutually beneficial resolution.

    Spouses that are in the habit of providing an emotionally safe environment for each other know how to externalize their problems in a way that does not make either spouse to be the problem.  They know that the problem is the problem, not each other.

    Both partners learn to work on their significant issues together.  There is no problem of one spouse that does not automatically involve the other.  The partners come to embrace each other’s challenges as their own and are empowered to confront them together.  They know that two working together are stronger, safer and more effective than either working alone.

    Two people can accomplish more than twice as much as one; they get a better return for their labor.  If one person falls, the other can reach out and help.  But people who are alone when they fall are in real trouble.  And on a cold night, two under the same blanket can gain warmth from each other.  But how can one be warm alone?  –Ecclesiastes 4:9-11.

    For a variety of reasons, marriages can start out to be or become emotionally unsafe.  An unsafe marriage is one where both spouses co-create an emotional barrier that keeps them from being close to each other.  This barrier can be made of negative experiences, negative expectations, or negative assumptions about each other and about the relationship.

  • Anxiety: Fear Turned Inward

    Let’s say on more days than not you feel pretty good about yourself and how you do in most areas of your life. Then one day, you struggle, perhaps at work, perhaps under pressure from a boss who expects more of you at times than you feel capable of achieving. The stress can be overwhelming. […]

  • The 4 Sources of Stress

    Stress, the reaction that mobilizes our resources against a potential danger (real or perceived), can be produced by an almost infinite variety of single triggers.  This variety is produced by the many different situations that can cause stress, in addition to the individual differences among individuals in their perceptions of these triggers.  It is not uncommon to […]

  • Stress and Memory: An Update

    Stress can interfere with the functioning of memory by either augmenting the impact and persistence of the recollection of an event, or by diminishing both. A recent article by Schwabe et al. (2012) summarizes and updates the most recent findings on the effects of stress on memory. Their research concludes that the timing of the […]

  • The Seasonal Stress Buster

    Oh, for the good old days when people would stop Christmas shopping when they ran out of money. –Author Unknown I’m not sure where this year has gone, but all of a sudden Christmas is here. With so much going on at this time of year it’s quite common to feel stressed and rushed off […]

  • Sleep More, Stress Less, Live Longer

    People who are sleeping less than six hours a night are at risk for more cardiovascular events, more likely to develop diabetes, and more likely to die sooner, according to a recent study. People who sleep at least seven hours per night have better immune systems, less stress and lower body weight. Sleep deprivation can […]